Dom I: Mindset shift

Far too many people are reluctant to engage in rough physical actions like hitting, slapping, choking, or intense physical handling with their partners, fearing they might cause harm. This hesitation is commendable because of not wanting to inflict pain, fear, anxiety, or distress on a loved one. This respect and care should always be the foundation of a relationship.

However, within the context of a consensual BDSM scene, the dynamics can shift. When a partner requests or desires to be dominated, it's crucial to navigate these requests carefully. The key is to fulfill these desires within the scene while ensuring no serious or lasting harm is done.

The boundaries of what is acceptable will vary in every relationship. Some may prefer not to have any physical marks, while others might want to experience a lingering physical reminder. The two fundamental rules in practicing BDSM sadism are:

Prioritize their well-being above their requests. Even if they ask for something extreme, like being punched to the point of bruising, it's important to consider the long-term impact on their life. Gratification should never come at the cost of lasting harm.

Always ensure that actions are about their needs and desires. The distinction between kinky play and abuse lies here. If a physical action is consented to and desired by them in the moment, it aligns with the principles of BDSM. However, if the action is a result of personal anger or frustration, it crosses into abuse. The Dom's role is to balance their own desires with the needs of their partner, providing what they desire within safe and consensual limits.